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New Website and Blog

I finally got my stuff together and consolidated my websites and blogs.  You can find me over at http://lindafaulkner.com – where my blog and website are all in one place.

If you like the layout, check in with Slocum Design Studio — they’re the wonderful folks who designed and created it for me.

 
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Posted by on January 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

Attainable New Year’s Resolutions

We all know about New Year’s resolutions … about how we always make them and never seem to accomplish them.

Well, I’ve managed to accomplish my last two New Year’s resolutions. Of course, they were rather vague and not very specific. For that reason, however, they allowed some flexibility and managed to be not only reasonable but also attainable.

For many years, I actually quit making New Year’s resolutions because I always failed to lose weight or acquire large sums of money. Our of sheer desperation one year, I decided I really needed to take care of myself … instead of everyone else: family, clients, even strangers in line at the grocery store who had far fewer items to check out and were really in a hurry.

Why do so many of us actually believe other people are busier than we are, live more stressful lives, and face more challenges? Well, I got over that. We all have 24 hours in our days. Most of us have parents, siblings, children, co-workers, bosses, employees, friends, neighbors, strangers, etc. who bring joy to our lives and/or manage to seriously mess with them.

Two years ago, my New Year’s resolution was to take better care of myself–as in, every single day I thought of something I could do to take care of myself. I accomplished that goal by putting a sticky note on the bathroom mirror (Take care of yourself today!). I accomplished a lot more thinking about taking care of myself than actually doing it, but the point is I truly thought about my own well-being each and every day. And managed to take better care of myself in 2010 than in previous years.

I began 2011 with the goal: Be Selfish. This was the result of 2010’s goal being too vague. Being selfish is a lot more specific. Or so I thought. About a month into the year, I realized selfish was too harsh a word. (Of course, I should have looked it up in the dictionary before making my resolution.) According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, selfish means “concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.” Since I’m a writer, I decided to take poetic license with the definition and, for my purposes, simply eliminated the “without regard for others.” It worked for me and I did a terrific job. Resolution accomplished.

So, there I was on December 31, 2011, and I still hadn’t come up with a New Year’s resolution. I admit it’s tough coming up with one that beats those of the last previous years. And, being the over-achiever I am, I really do prefer to keep beating past records. Instead, I decided to pitch my competitiveness (even with myself) and go a little deeper with my goal of taking care of myself.

So, here’s my New Year’s resolution for 2012: Do something for myself each and every day that improves my personal well-being.

Yes, it’s posted where I can read it every day–although not on my bathroom mirror. And I’m more than happy to share it with you. Feel free to take it for yourself.

If you have one, what’s YOUR New Year’s resolution? How did you arrive at it. If you don’t have one, why not?

Regardless, here’s wishing you good health, weight loss (if you want it), large sums of money (if you get them and don’t want them, feel free to donate to the Linda Fund), and much happiness in 2012.

 
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Posted by on January 1, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier

As a person who believes in the power of positive thinking and winning friends and influencing people, I really enjoyed this book.

It took a number of principles I believe in, and practice, and expounded upon them in a way that allows me to practice them more faithfully and enthusiastically.

I especially liked Losier’s suggestion to make a list of things I don’t like and translate each item on the list into a positive. For example, if I hate my job and want to look for a new one but am not precisely sure what kind of job I’m looking for, I can attract the right job, employer, and situation for me by making a list of what I don’t like and then translating each item into something I DO want; for example:

  • I don’t want a job that involves travel translates into I want a job that requires me to work at one location;
  • I don’t want to work weekends translates into I want a job that requires me to work only on weekdays;
  • I can’t accept less than $20 per hour translates into I must be paid at least $20 per hour.

By focusing only on positives, and not negatives, we train ourselves to be open and look for opportunities rather than being negative and griping about what’s not right.

Losier also suggests that we consciously appreciate and focus on only the things that are going right with our lives, such as:

  • I just heard my favorite song on the radio;
  • The weather is beautiful today;
  • I’m lucky to have a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse/child/parent/friend who loves me so much;
  • I’m grateful for my job;
  • Lucky me! I didn’t hit one red light on the way to work this morning!

By focusing on what is going right in our lives, and appreciating our blessings, we radiate positive thoughts and vibrations and attract the same.  You know that old adage about water seeking its own level? That’s what the Law of Attraction is all about.

Another technique I appreciated was focusing on our decisions and what we’re in the process of rather than our lacks. For example:

  • I’ve decided to lose 25 pounds in the next year;
  • I’ve decided I don’t want to be single any more;
  • I am in the process of living a healthier lifestyle;
  • I am in the process of finding a better job.

You owe it to yourself to check into the Law of Attraction.

 

 
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Posted by on October 13, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Are You Generous … or Stingy?

I’m finding myself meeting a LOT of interesting folks on Twitter. Of course, some people are interesting-good and others are interesting-not-so-much…

The thing that really impresses me lately is the fact that a fair amount of people seriously try to promote their friends by retweeting and mentioning them. Funny how some people are generous and others are stingy.

I’ve been running into stingy a lot in recent weeks. You know the kind of people I’m talking about. The ones who happily eat the breakfast bagels co-workers bring to the office but who never, ever bring anything to the office for other people to share. Or the ones who stop by the office two minutes before it closes to transact business that takes 40 minutes. Or the ones who do everything last minute. And I do mean LAST MINUTE.

What kind of people are you running into lately? Please send some generous people my way. I truly do deserve them! (Ooops! Does that comment illustrate my stingy gene?)

 
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Posted by on July 8, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

What is it about Dads?

 My first memory of me and Dad together is when I was 3 or 4 years old. We were driving home from my grandfather’s house–just Dad and me–and it was dark. Late. I was exhausted. I lay on the front seat of the car with my head on his leg. More than 50 years later, I can still see green lights on the dashboard and feel the weight of his hand on my hip. I still remember feeling the heaviness of my eyes, forcing them open, savoring the alone-time and not wanting it to end.

Special. That’s a good word to describe my father. Unique. That’s another good word. He certainly isn’t ordinary. He’s one of those people who says precisely what he means–even if it isn’t politically correct. He’s been known to say things … loudly, emphatically, and without a lot of tact or sensitivity. Then again, he’s never lied to me. He’s also taken to calling me “dear” these past couple of years. Especially since his heart surgery.

He’s opinionated, inflexible, and single-minded. Which are really good qualities when I’ve needed a champion, a supporter, and a friend. Every single day of my life I’ve known my Dad is there for me–and for anyone who’s ever needed him.

Pictured in this blog post are my Dad and three generations of his legacy. We all adore him and have richer, fuller lives because he’s been part of them.

Happy Father’s Day, Dad. I love you.

What’s one of YOUR “Dad” stories?

         

 

 
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Posted by on June 18, 2011 in Uncategorized

 
 
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